Looks like you are asking well, better than many do
The forum is alive and read, but apparently those reading have no answer for you.
I can't speak for the rest of us, but my wireless setup uses an AP plugged into my network switch, not a card within the m0n0wall device itself. This avoids all sorts of problems, as m0n0wall doesn't need to support the AP directly and the AP doesn't need to know anything about m0n0wall.